“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” ~ Oscar Wilde
At first, you may question your own sanity. Why is this person saying all these things if they aren’t true? Even the smartest and brightest will question themselves. I could not understand how my ex was always so conveniently forgetful of any harmful thing he had ever done or said to me, yet had a photographic memory when it came to blame. As you start to learn more about the narcissistic personality disorder, I hope you will find peace in knowing they are all the same and they all behave the same because they all share the same disorder.
My A-HA moment came when my ex decided to go on a trip for 30 days, leaving me to watch our young child alone and balance work for his own selfish reasons. During those days, where it should have been tough because I had no help from my partner, I began to really fall back in love with myself. Spending time with myself and my daughter was the most I had felt like myself since I had met this person. It really put it into perspective for me that this person who was supposed to be my partner in life was really just a soul sucking leech trying to suck out any form of confidence and love I had for myself and only served to make me question my worth so he could gain more and more control. Sound familiar? This is because they are ALL THE SAME.
I wish I could say I left him then and there but at this time, I still did not know who he truly was and what horrible evil he was capable of. It was the beginning of me starting to think of an exit plan, and we all have to start somewhere.
I have included a meme I found very helpful in the early stages of my recovery that has all the narc’s common sayings. If any of these resonate with you, it may be time to start thinking of how to save yourself.
Have a blessed day,